A controversial gift of love

By Lauren - Gold Coast Mum

Two years ago Lauren Fisher's baby boy Elijah Rainbow - then aged only seven months - drowned after falling to his death from a bridge over Logan River in Brisbane. 

Elijah's father, David Fisher - Lauren's partner of almost two decades and father of their four young daughters - was reportedly charged with murder.

The tragedy made headlines at the time and it really struck a chord with me as my baby son was around the same age. 
My heart ached for Lauren and her daughters as they experienced such unimaginable pain and sadness.

Lauren, who leads a nomadic life describing herself now as a "single mama travelling Australia with my four daughters" is also a prolific blogger who has a beautiful way with words (despite whether you agree with what she does/says).

A former evangelical Christian who has transitioned to unchurching, Lauren is adored by her followers on social media for her passion for living in the moment.
..." embracing life as it is, finding beauty in the ordinary and creating wonderful adventures for our family. We are radical unschoolers, gentle parents and free-range thinkers," she states on her blog.

While Lauren attracted plenty of praise and criticism after the passing of her precious baby son due to her willingness to be so open in her writing, her latest venture is sure to set tongues wagging once again.

Lauren has announced she's pregnant
She's acting as a surrogate for a male couple whom she met online.

"I’m delighted to share publicly that I’m pregnant again — but the baby isn’t mine. I’m growing a child for close friends of mine who can’t naturally conceive and birth their own child."

Lauren says she met Ágúst and Ben online. "We clicked immediately, and time and our shared experiences have confirmed that we are a good match for this endeavour."

"In the last couple of years, I’ve been growing in love for the gay community, and I knew having a baby with a gay couple would be a way I could make a meaningful difference in their lives. I contacted Ágúst and Ben through a surrogacy website, and from my first tentative email, we’ve developed a solid and fun friendship."


Lauren says her girls are delighted to be part of this pregnancy.
"I had to gain my daughters’ blessing before I could leave them for two weeks last year to travel to Ben and Ágúst in Iceland, see the fathers’ home, meet their families and basically scope out their lives."

Lauren writes that her four daughters "know that the baby isn’t ours and are looking forward to travelling to Europe before the birth."

"I’m not doing this for money, I’m doing it — quite literally — for love."

"Unlike with commercial surrogacy, I’m not being paid for the pregnancy in any way, although the fathers did offer. Without any contracts, payments or legalities, this isn’t a surrogacy — it’s a love affair!"

"The fathers will pay for the home-birth midwife’s services, and I’m covering all our travel costs and living expenses.
I really want to make an extraordinary difference in the world. I don’t have many amazing skills, but I do possess a generous spirit and the superpower of excellent child-production, so I’m using these to transform the lives of a couple by presenting them with a child. My gift is an intimate, personal offering — carefully considered and intentionally packaged with love."

To view Lauren's announcement in full, visit:

What a brave woman! Best wishes to her!
Here's what some of the critics have said:

What are your thoughts? Could you/would you be a surrogate? 

Link to a a previous interview with The Weekly:


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  1. Whatever you think about surrogacy, it is illegal in Iceland both as altruistic and paid surrogacy. So it's inexplicable to me that a good mother would drag her 4 small daughters across the world where she is publicly planning to break the law. It also seems cruel that she would expect the girls to watch her give away their baby brother, just two years after their father murdered their last brother. Surrogacy can be a beautiful altruistic gift of life, but this is not a good example.

  2. Shelby, you're wrong. Lauren is an amazing individual. Yes I know her. Yes I know what others write on that website. I refuse to judge anyone based on what bullies write about her. Try being kind, it's easier than you think. Congratulations Lauren, you're an inspiration. <3

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