How to meet other mums

How to meet other mums

By Lauren - Gold Coast Mum

Since moving to the Gold Coast - from Sydney - four years ago, my husband and I have managed to make some lovely friends in the area.

Though there are definitely times we miss our social network back in NSW - old school friends, besties who *may have* helped hold our hair back as we drove the porcelain bus or piled us into cabs when we were young and carefree, the good friends made during our careers, and all our lovely sporting club friends (my husband played golf, rugby union, cricket, Oz tag, basketball, soccer and more) - we feel really lucky to have a nice group of friends in our area.

A few of my new Gold Coast friends were met through mother's groups with my daughter when we first moved here, work, and mother's groups I attended when Mr 3 was born (look up your local Child Health Clinic as they have parenting groups where the mother's groups are formed, as well as other social activities and play groups you may like to participate in).

Once we had our twincesses, who are now 17 months, we also met/made friends with various other families with multiples and other friends through the Gold Coast Multiple Birth Association.

With my twincesses at the Gold Coast Multiple Birth Association Christmas party
(while my husband was off chasing after our then-4yo & then-2yo).

The other interesting way I have made quite a few nice friends here on the Gold Coast, is via the various Facebook mother's group pages.

Some might liken it to online dating - you connect with someone, you exchange background/details, may or may not meet up in a public place, and then decide whether you could actually be friends with this person. Then you're like 'hey I like you, let's be friends', or not. Which is totally fine.

There are a few Facebook mother's groups set up for the different areas of the Gold Coast.
There are also a few set up for different interests/parenting styles - for example babywearing, breastfeeding, young mums, older mums, natural parenting, attachment parenting and so on.

The groups, and their dedicated admins/creators, take the time to encourage discussion and to arrange play dates (and some even arrange nights out for ladies to meet up CHILD-FREE, have dinner and a dance).

These private groups are great for mothers to exchange advice in the middle of the night, and also for women to build up friendships with other likeminded mums who may live nearby or have children the same age, before 'taking the plunge' and meeting in real life for play dates.

It was through one of these Facebook groups I became friends with a mother who had children exactly the same age as mine, and we quickly established that not only did we live in the same suburb but our children attended the SAME preschool - and were friends in the same class - yet we had never met as our pick up/drop off times were always different.

So we arranged a few play dates and have since gone on to become good friends, attending each others' kids' birthday parties, dinners and get-togethers, as well as catch ups now doing the school run.

Though I may seem bubbly and talkative to some, there are times when I can be shy (and sometimes when I'm shy I can ramble on too!).

I wonder if my willingness to be open to new friendships, and ability to happily chat with/connect with new people - eg at the park - is something that has grown on me since having children 2, 3 and 4.
(Also, the fact we have twins is always a conversation starter for people and I'm always happy to answer their questions :-)

Perhaps I'm leading by example and showing to my children that it's nice to be nice, and it's nice to meet new people, have a conversation and possibly become friends.

If I'm in a situation where I see someone who is perhaps looking like they're feeling left out, I'll usually do my best to include them as well.
My way of thinking is, 'we're not in high school anymore, we're all mothers trying to do the best we can, and having one more friend to share the highs and lows with can't hurt'.

I'm not actively out there looking for new friends (I have many whom I haven't been able to arrange catch ups with for a while but still think of often), but friends have come along at perfect times and it's something you should be open to.

Some may find meeting other mums via Facebook to be weird, but hey, you've got nothing to lose.
You never know when or how your next bestie might come along.

What are your thoughts on making mum friends via Facebook/ mother's groups?

If you are looking to connect with other mums in the area, feel free to join this group:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/goldcoastmum/


Also, feel free to message me on Facebook or post on my wall and I can share links with you for the various other mother's groups.

Or, if you have a mother's group or Facebook group, feel free to share the link below in the comments or on Facebook.

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The day my blogpost went viral

The day my blogpost went viral

By Lauren – Gold Coast Mum

Yesterday an article I wrote spread like wildfire and the family featured received a lot of negative feedback.

The article was republished and shared via iVillage and Mamamia. Which was super exciting… until the comments started rolling in.

Hundreds of people – mostly women – expressed their outrage via Facebook saying nasty things and mocking the family featured in the story.  

The mother is harmless and did not intend to upset or offend anyone.

Go Fund Me, and other crowdfunding platforms, have been used for various causes including ‘help me get overseas’/ ‘help pay for my wedding’ and other much more trivial requests.

The woman featured in my article approved my article AND the use of the photos and even thanked me for it when it was live on my blog.

Due to the negative reaction, the husband isn't happy - which is understandable.

I know I did the right thing my end by advising her there could be some backlash and that there could be the opportunity for it to get a lot of interest which the mother agreed to.
AND letting her approve it before it was live and again when it was live on my blog.

A popular TV show and a newspaper also expressed interest in covering the story and interviewing the mother also with the goal of raising awareness for their cause.

I have now removed the blogpost in question to avoid any further embarrassment for the family.

Thanks so much for your support.

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New fitness classes for pregnant Gold Coast women

New fitness classes for pregnant Gold Coast women

By Lauren - Gold Coast Mum

Gold Coast obstetrician and gynaecologist Dr Drew Moffrey has partnered with Gold Coast personal trainer Asha Burnley to offer antenatal group fitness classes.

Held at Miss Burnley's Broadbeach studio, the new sessions, approved by Dr Moffrey, will include pre and post-natal training programs, including group classes and personal training.

I had the pleasure of meeting both Asha and Dr Drew during my time as a newspaper journalist – where I coordinated a campaign they were selected to participate in.

Dr Moffrey was also the wonderful obstetrician I saw for antenatal appointments during my pregnancy with my twincesses (though I gave birth at Gold Coast University Hospital).


We have since caught up so he could meet my twincesses, that he so professionally kept track of during my pregnancy (and helped me manage my gestational diabetes).


I also caught up with Dr Moffrey at one of the wonderful get-togethers he has held at a local park for current and previous clients.




It’s wonderful to see two intelligent and passionate Gold Coasters, who are leading the way in their industries, join forces to offer this great service for women.



I attended personal training until I was about five months’ pregnant with my twin girls. 
At the time I felt my male personal trainer was pushing me a little too hard and wasn’t up-to-speed on pregnancy-related issues and other concerns such as diastasis recti (abdominal separation).


I knew my limits and felt that safest option would be to cease training until my twins had arrived safely.
Unfortunately, these days I don’t get to train due to juggling four children under the age of five, as well as working from home. But I do love to exercise with my children and attend Zumba classes.


Miss Burnley, who runs Asha Burnley Health & Fitness, and has many satisfied ‘Asha’s Angels’ all over the Gold Coast, has developed a range of fitness programs to suit women's needs.
Her programs aim to provide women with an improved sense of health and confidence.
All training sessions are run from Miss Burnley’s Gold Coast base. For those not based on the Gold Coast, she also offers Online Workout Plans.

For further information, visit:

http://www.drdrewmoffrey.com.au/about/



Did you work out during pregnancy?

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Taylor Swift's shocking cancer news

Taylor Swift's shocking cancer news


Taylor Swift has announced that her Mum, Andrea, has cancer.

Being the awesome chick that she is, Taylor said, via her Tumblr, she’s sharing the information with the hope of encouraging others to get health checks.

Taylor’s full message:


"Hey guys,

I'm writing to you with an update I wish I wasn't giving you, but it's important and I'm used to sharing important events in my life with you. Usually when things happen to me, I process them and then write music about how I feel, and you hear it much later. This is something my family and I thought you should know about now.

For Christmas this year, I asked my mom that one of her gifts to me be her going to the doctor to get screened for any health issues, just to ease some worries of mine. She agreed, and went in to get checked. There were no red flags and she felt perfectly fine, but she did it just to get me and my brother off her case about it.

The results came in, and I'm saddened to tell you that my mom has been diagnosed with cancer. I'd like to keep the details of her condition and treatment plans private, but she wanted you to know.

She wanted you to know because your parents may be too busy juggling everything they've got going on to go to the doctor, and maybe you reminding them to go get checked for cancer could possibly lead to an early diagnosis and an easier battle… Or peace of mind in knowing that they're healthy and there's nothing to worry about. She wanted you to know why she may not be at as many shows this tour. She's got an important battle to fight.

Thank you for caring about my family so much that she would want me to share this information with you.
I hope and pray that you never get news like this.


Love you.
Taylor"

http://taylorswift.tumblr.com/post/115942142045/just-so-you-know

My thoughts are with Taylor, Andrea and the family.

Sending positive health vibes!

Hug your family peeps!

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This is how we do. How we became accidental cosleepers

This is how we do. How we became accidental cosleepers

Before hubby and I became parents, we may have pictured parenthood - the night time routine - to involve tucking our precious cherubs into bed, reading them a story before giving them a hug and a kiss, switching the lights off, blowing a kiss and then closing the door to sneak off to unwind and enjoy adult time for the rest of the evening followed by a restful night of sleep.

How wrong we were.

Any child-free time we have these days involves us trying to get back up-to-date with household chores, or trying to fix the hurricane that 4 kids aged 4 & under cause.

THIS is a glimpse of what most nights look like in our household...




Arms, legs, children, adults. All squished together.

Until our twin girls were born, Mr 3 and Miss 4 mostly stayed in their own beds overnight.

We'd put them to bed - in their own beds - and they might have joined us in our bed at some stage during the night and we would take them back to their own bed, or just enjoy the extra snuggles and continue sleeping peacefully.

When our twincesses were around 12 weeks old and transitioned from bassinettes to cots,
Mr 3 upgraded to a toddler bed (around the time of his 2nd birthday).

Mr 3 and Miss 4 increasingly became difficult to get to sleep, who could blame them with all of the changes that occurred in our household with the arrival of two tiny new siblings who were very unsettled in the early evening until around 4 months.

There was lots going on. It was mayhem.
The twins would be cluster feeding (I would spend hours tandem breastfeeding them on the lounge) and hubby would be trying to get Miss 4 and Mr 3 to bed either at the same time or separately.
There was only two of us and 4 toddlers/babies who required our love, attention and reassurance.

Due to our sleep-deprived haze, hubby and I let our previous sleep routines fly out of the window.
We lacked the time - and the energy - to persist with getting Mr 3 and Miss 4 off to sleep in their own beds.

We don't agree with cry-it-out and prefer gentle/peaceful techniques, so instead followed our natural instinct to be with our eldest two and accompany them as they drift off to sleep peacefully, without fuss.
It was the best solution for everyone.

It took hardly any effort, no tears involved, was quick and was a win win for everyone.

This routine has continued now for over a year.
Usually, hubby or I will get our twins off to bed - which is usually a stress-free process. They sleep through until usually after 7.30am.


Then hubby or I will get Miss 4 and Mr 3 off to sleep.
If I have work to do, hubby might lay in our bed with Miss 4 and Mr 3 and they'll have a chat and pass out. Or I'll lay with one child in one room and hubby will lay with the other, in another room.

Sometimes we fall asleep with the kids (not good if we have work to do) or we'll get back up and do housework/prepare lunches for the next day.

At the moment, we love our routine, it's easy for everyone. We can see how some might think we've formed a 'bad habit' as yes, it did form due to our reluctance to take our kids back to their own bed in the middle of the night during the time when we were already sleep deprived from being up all hours with twin babies.

It seemed ridiculous to, after having just been reacquainted with my pillow, then drag a child back to their own bed and deal with the tears etc. It was precious sleep time. So we just let it all happen naturally, allowed Miss 4 and Mr 3 in our beds so we could all get a good night's sleep.

Some nights, if hubby has put Miss 4 and Mr 3 to sleep in our bed and they're all sprawled out being bed hogs, and I'm up working late, then I may sleep in Miss 4's single bed for a peaceful night's sleep.
If hubby has left for work early, then Miss 4 and Mr 3 will wake and join me in the SINGLE bed and continue catching zzz's.

It's a nice thing to do. Hubby and I enjoy the special moments with our little ones - when we chat about their day, come up with crazy songs and talk about random stuff as they get dreary and fall asleep.
Hubby and I are glad we're both on the same page and agree that the kids will only be like this for a short time (we don't expect them to want to sleep near us when they're 12/13?).
Our boy has sleep apnea (stops breathing for 10-15 seconds occasionally) so it's nice to be close so we can give him a nudge to have a breath.

Co-sleeping works for us and our theory is, until it doesn't work for us, then we'll continue to do it. At the moment it's working and we wouldn't change a thing. That's not to say, on the nights hubby and I do find that we have our bed to ourselves (after transferring the big two to their own beds) that we aren't slapping high-fives.


Thankfully, our twincesses, who are now 17-month sleep happily in their cots ALL night... for now


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